2007 June « Human love & sex

Foreplay again

29 June 2007 at 8:43 pm (Climax, Clitoris, Female body, Foreplay, Human Body, Intercourse, Kamasutra, Love, Love making, Nature, Orgasm, Sex, Sexual pleasure, posture)

There are some sensitive points on our body, which are stimulated directly or indirectly while foreplay for arousing partners before engaging into sexual intercourse. Touching, pressing, messaging or stimulation of these parts induces sexual response. Some of the important erogenous zones are discussed here but once you are experienced you will discover the right ones, most arousing for your partner.

In sex, we can’t say what would turn us on, sometimes simple acts, such as straightening her clothing or hair, whispering in her/his ear can be foreplay and arousing. Similarly holding hands, touching the face, any type of caressing, kissing or messaging the erogenous parts are also foreplay.

Besides above, following are the example of different type of Foreplay usually takes place, before engaging into sexual intercourse.

(a) Deep tongue kissing.

(b) Touching and massaging erogenous zones over clothing.

(d) Direct stimulation of naked erogenous zones.

(e) Genital Teasing for a brief time.

(f) Undressing oneself or partner.

Breasts & Nipples

Breasts and Nipples are most sensitive parts for arousing. Touching, pressing, kissing and caressing the breast are very common. The nipples too are most sensitive parts of the females for arousing. Once she is aroused, the nipples get harder. Sometimes foreplay of sucking of the nipples and simultaneous pressing of the other breast, are continued till initial phase of intercourse.

Neck

The neck and clavicle area of the female is a very sensitive region. Licking, kissing, and caressing here are very arousing to many people. Additionally the back of the neck is very sensitive to arousal by lightly caressing. That’s why when a standing female is held from her back and light caressing and kissing at the back of her neck, she enjoys and gets aroused.

Female genitalia

Direct stimulation of naked erogenous zones is almost always considered foreplay. In women, this includes stimulation of the clitoris and Vulva. When the vulva is touched or messages, females respond quickly. This can be done over the cloth or under the cloth directly or naked. It should be started with simply touching over the cloth and then progress slowly. Once she is responded and aroused, her body will let you know.

The clitoris located above the urethra and vaginal canal, is not always noticeable. Clitoris too will be stimulated lightly while messaging the Vulva area.

For both sexes, stimulation of nipple and anus are also considered foreplay. Stimulation can be achieved by mouth, hands, or common household objects like feathers or ice cubes.

Male genitalia

In men, it includes stimulation of the penis and scrotum. The penis is the most erogenous zone in the male body. The joint of all sensitive nerves lies underneath the penis head which highly sensitive and may elicit strong sensations from the slightest touch or movement. The ridged band is also a fairly sensitive part of the penis as well.

The skin of the scrotum is very sensitive to light touching and stroking, causing a pleasurable sensation. This pleasurable sensation is generally experienced when female partner lie on her stomach, over a pillow, lifting the vagina, and male rides her from her back. While stroking in this posture, the scrotum touches her soft buttocks causing pleasurable sensation in scrotum, which is an extra pleasure for the male partner.

Foreplay induces a strong mutual desire for penetration to the female partner. Technically, foreplay ends with the beginning of penetration. But practically it may continue while intercourse too. Couple may engage in foreplay-like behavior during intercourse too.

Foreplay

18 June 2007 at 4:17 pm (Climax, Clitoris, Foreplay, Intercourse, Kamasutra, Life, Love, Love making, Orgasm, Sex, Sexual pleasure)

When we compare the female behaviors while sex, we find they are opposite of males in many ways. Unlike males, females get aroused slowly. Similarly they take longer time to climax. Female partner may not respond instantly and the male partner need to arouse her by foreplay before engaging into vaginal intercourse. Most women want long and sensual foreplay for making the whole lovemaking session more enjoyable. Kamasutra says – “….he should have recourse to various means to excite her passion. At the commencement he should rub her yoni (vagina) with his hand or fingers, and not begin to have intercourse with her until she becomes excited, or experiences pleasure. This is one way of exciting a woman.”

Sometimes, the male partner does not take care of foreplay which is necessary for a successful and pleasant session. Even if female partner not heated properly, for male partner don’t make any difference to achieve his sexual pleasure. Male partner’s sex organ is such that he gets the pleasure easily with a little stimulation but female partner does not get what she wants if she is not fully aroused.

Therefore, male partner should engage himself for a prolonged foreplay and wait till the partner is fully exited and heated before main game started. When she is fully aroused, heated she will show her increased willingness for union of two sex organs by means of kissing and biting the lips. While foreplay her vagina will be oozing lubricating juices and will be wet, wide and well lubricated for making the penetration highly smooth and pleasurable. Sexual intercourse after prolonged foreplay will be more delicious, more pleasurable for both the partners and this type of intercourse will lead her to orgasm faster if a little attention is given by the male partner to rub or hit her clitoris while stroking his penis into her vagina. As per “Kamasutra”- “The signs of the enjoyment and satisfaction of the woman are as follows: her body relaxes, she closes her eyes, she puts aside all bashfulness, and shows increased willingness to unite the two organs as closely together as possible.

In sixteenth century, Sheikh Nefzaoui, an Arabian writer wrote ‘Perfumed Garden’. In his work he has mentioned about the foreplay and how to understand that she is excited and to start genital to genital coition. He says -“ if you would have pleasant coition, which ought to give an equal share of happiness to the two combatants and be satisfactory to both, you must first of all toy with the woman, excite her with kisses, by nibbling and sucking her lips, by caressing her neck and cheeks. Turn her over in the bed, now on her back, now on her stomach, till you see by her eyes that the time for pleasure is near.”

“Then when you observe the lips of a woman to tremble and get red, and her eyes to become languishing, and her sighs to become quicker, know that she is hot for coition; then get between her thighs, so that your member can enter into her vagina. If you allow my advice, you will enjoy a pleasant embrace, which will give you the greatest satisfaction, and leave with you a delicious remembrance. “

At last but not the least, my advice – my dear do not hurry up on bed too, be patience, proceed slowly, it yields. Utilize the opportunities successfully for maximum benefits of you both. Lovemaking is an God gifted art, take time and do it properly and enjoy and let her enjoy the game. We are most intelligent species on this planet, then why to do it like animals? Having good pleasurable sex (for both) is good for health as it is one kind of food for soul. Love and be loved.

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About Orgasm

16 June 2007 at 9:17 pm (Climax, Clitoris, Female body, Foreplay, Human Body, Intercourse, Kamasutra, Love, Love making, Orgasm, Relationship, Sex, posture)

A boy is puzzled with a problem and took help of a newspaper “Q&A” forum where he asked- what to do? Because when his girlfriend, after few dating, expressed her desire to enjoy sex, he readily agreed and one day they had it. Later the girl disclosed to him that he was not a good performer in bed because he could not satisfy her. Boy got puzzled, because he loves her.

This is not a new problem. It happens with most of us. Most of the men, when they enter in the world of sex, are unable of satisfy his female partner at one go. Here satisfying a female partner means to achieve what she wants that is taking her to Orgasm. There are many reasons for not achieving of Orgasm, most of us either ignorant or do not take care of this aspect.

“Orgasm is achieved after direct stimulation of the penis or clitoris for a period of time. Sexual intercourse, manual masturbation, oral sex, non- penetrative sex, or a sensual vibrator can cause this stimulation. Any sexual stimulation of the penis or clitoris may eventually result in an orgasm.”

All living creatures are having two types of hunger, one for food to supply energy to our body and another for sex. Sex is like food, an essential biological demand of the body which need to be met for good health and reproduction. As per the hunger, our body urges for sexual union with opposite sex for getting the sexual pleasure out of stimulation of the sexual organs engaged in the sexual act.

Women is God’s beautiful creation. Though the female body is crafted beautifully but some complexity has also been added to it which may be for God’s some hidden agenda.

The male sex organ is so designed, it can easily achieve the ultimate pleasure but woman sex organs are complex in design which makes orgasm difficult to achieve. The joint of sensitive nerves are placed at the bottom of the head of the penis and this part gets direct stimulation while traveling in and out of the vagina while intercourse. But for the female, the Clitoris, a micro penis of female, counter part to the male penis, where all sensitive nerves are terminated and placed above the opening to the vagina and the opening to the urinal path. It sits under a fold of skin, which resembles to a tent. It is called hood. It swells and stiffens when she is aroused.

The position of the clitoris is such that it is difficult to get adequate stimulation or rubbing by the penis shaft while stroking the penis into the vagina in normal vaginal intercourse in missionary or some other positions too. It is a myth that a woman takes a longer time to climax. Due to all these reasons, the achieving Orgasm is difficult for women during vaginal intercourse unless effort is made to provide that needed stimulation. That’s why most of the women don’t reach to orgasm. In this scenario, some women even do not have experience of orgasm in their life time.

Coming into contact of the clitoris and the penis shaft while stroking depends upon the posture while riding her. Apart from the postures the most important is foreplay. Foreplay helps the female partner achieve Orgasm. In the subsequent paragraphs/ postings, foreplay and postures which helps the females to achieve orgasm will be discussed.

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