9 August 2008 at 3:36 pm (Climax, Clitoris, Intercourse, Love, Love making, Orgasm, Sex, Sexual pleasure, posture)
Tags: cunnilingus, Intercourse, Orgasm, pleasure, Sexual posture
I just started a topic on Orgasm, when a boy was rejected by his girlfriend due to his failure to satisfy her on the very first day. Naturally he was upset. He is not alone, men often feel unmanly if they can’t satisfy their woman by vaginal intercourse. As already said that a large number of women can’t reach to orgasm through normal vaginal intercourse. But it can be tried to achieve that golden moment by means of favorable postures to orgasm, after prolonged foreplay.
However, even if you fail to achieve it with your partner, there is nothing wrong with you or your partner, and there is nothing to feel unmanly, because there are many factors related to orgasm. And also it varies woman to woman. Because of these variations, some women enjoy orgasm, some women can’t. There’s no need to get upset when your lady don’t reach orgasm. Instead, love her and try to give her that pleasure of orgasm by mastering the art of cunnilingus, going down on her.
Cunnilingus is the act of using the mouth, lips, and tongue to stimulate the female genitals. The clitoris is particularly noted as the most sexually sensitive part of the female genitalia. Shere Hite, a sex educator, notes that most women achieve orgasm easily from clitoral stimulation as part of cunnilingus.
Some women find cunnilingus to be the most satisfying sexual act. Indeed, this oral sex is the only way a large number of women can achieve orgasm.
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26 December 2007 at 8:59 pm (Climax, Clitoris, Female body, Human Body, Human Love, Human sex, Intercourse, Kamasutra, Love, Love making, Nature, Orgasm, Sex, Sexual pleasure, Sexual posture, posture)
The woman is on all-fours, taking her weight on her forearms. The man kneels behind her, and enters her from behind, controlling the movement with his hips. This classic position will give both partners a great deal of pleasure, as the deep penetration will not only stimulate the vaginal walls, but also the G spot. The Dog will appeal to men who like to take the dominant role during sex and to women who like deep penetration and a high level of stimulation. However, some women may feel demeaned by the submissive role, or may feel pain, in which case there are plenty more positions to chose from!
Kamasutra described this posture as below :
When a woman stands on her hands and feet like a quadruped, and her lover mounts her like a bull, it is called the `congress of a cow’. At this time everything that is ordinarily done on the bosom should be done on the back.
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15 November 2007 at 12:13 am (Climax, Clitoris, Foreplay, Human Body, Human Love, Human sex, Intercourse, Kamasutra, Life, Love, Love making, Oral sex, Orgasm, Relationship, Sex, Sexual pleasure, Sexual posture, posture)
Oral sex consists of all sexual activities that involve the use of the mouth and tongue to stimulate genitalia
There are some reasons to practice Oral sex by the heterosexual (male–female) couple but it is commonly practiced for pleasure or as foreplay. Many women who are anorgasmic can only achieve orgasm through oral sex, and so they often prefer it instead of or in addition to sexual intercourse.
Oral sex is practiced in both heterosexual (male –female) and homosexual (same sex) relationships. In male-female relationships, oral sex can be a temporary measure of contraception, and may be opted as an alternative to intercourse for this reason. It is said by experts that oral sex is not an effective methods of preventing sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).
If a couple is uncomfortable with intercourse during menstruation, they may engage in fellatio. If a couple is uncomfortable or unable to perform intercourse during pregnancy, they may engage in oral sex.
Cunnilingus and Fellatio are two common oral sex involving a woman and man’s genitals (as shown in the above pictures). In these cases one partner remains passive but “69” posture is the best way of Oral Sex performed by both partners for simultaneous pleasure of Oral Sex. In Kama Sutra it is called “Congress of the crow”.
Partners lie with their heads at opposite ends of the bed, on their sides (or women over male). The taller partner has to curl up a bit so that each partner’s mouth is lined up with the other’s genitals and vice versa. The most sensitive part of the penis is under the rim of the head. Running female partners tongue under there is sure to please him and so the female partner is pleased when his tongue moves over her clit. Both are leaking each others most sensitive parts of the sexual organs and enjoying the pleasure. This generates pleasures to greater heights emanating moaning sound from both the partners. This way both will reach to extreme leading to climax. At extreme point, she may cry with pleasure before orgasm.
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14 November 2007 at 11:13 pm (Climax, Clitoris, Female body, Human Body, Human Love, Human sex, Intercourse, Life, Love, Love making, Nature, Orgasm, Relationship, Sexual pleasure, Sexual posture, Variants, posture)
Coital Alignment Technique (CAT ) Posture : 
The CAT position is a variant of the missionary position designed to maximize clitoral stimulation during coitus. This is achieved by combining the “riding high” variation of the missionary position with pressure-counter pressure movements performed by each partner in rhythm with coitus. The penetrating partner lies above the receiving partner as in the missionary position, but moves upward along her body, so that the base of his penis provides stimulation to her clitoris. The receiving partner may also wrap her legs around his. Sexual movement is focused in the pelvises, without leverage from the arms or legs. The Rocking upward stroke (receiving partner leads) and downward stroke (penetrating partner leads) of sexual movement builds an electric-like charge that partners let develop and peak naturally.
This doesn’t mean that it works for everyone. It may take a bit of practice.
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29 September 2007 at 5:05 pm (Climax, Clitoris, Female body, Foreplay, Human Love, Human sex, Intercourse, Kamasutra, Life, Love, Love making, Orgasm, Relationship, Sexual pleasure, Sexual posture, posture)
The Kamasutra of Vatsyayana believed to have been written in the 1st to 6th centuries, has a notorious reputation as a sex manual, although only a small part of its text is devoted to sex. Other ancient sex manuals include the lost works of Elephantis; Ananga Ranga, a 12th century collection of Hindu erotic works; and The perfumed Garden, a 16th century Arabic work by Sheikh Nefzaoui.
The Seventh Posture of The Perfumed Garden (Burton’s translation into English) is an unusual position not described in other classical sex manuals. Though it is not described in other sex manuals, but most of the couples make use of this posture due to advantages. The posture goes like this: The female partner lies on her side. The male partner faces her, straddling the female’s lower leg, and lifts the upper leg onto the crook of male’s elbow or onto the shoulder. While both the legs up, vagina is exposed out and male’s member can enter smoothly. In this posture fast and heavy stroking is not possible, that’s why most of the couples make use of this posture during pregnancy..
Couples can discover new postures during their sexual adventures. This posture too is a common one and I believe, most of the couples use it. Though it is not a very satisfying one but many times it is used., especially during pregnancy. Couples while lying side by side, you can communicate each other and engage in foreplay. In fact couple get engaged in this posture while foreplay lying side by side in the bed. While foreplay is on and both are equally aroused, the male partner place his body between her thighs and legs are positioned as said above, and enters her.
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30 August 2007 at 7:56 pm (Climax, Clitoris, Female body, Foreplay, Human Body, Human Love, Human sex, Intercourse, Kamasutra, Life, Love, Love making, Nature, Orgasm, Relationship, Sex, Sexual pleasure, Sexual posture, Variants, posture)
Most sex acts are typically performed on a bed or other simple platform or on the floor. As the range of supports available increases, so does the range of positions that are possible. Ordinary furniture can be used for this purpose. For example a study table or dinning table or kitchen platform can be a good platform for performing sexual intercourse. The female partner will be sitting on the edge of the table and the male partner be standing facing each other. The female partner rest her legs on her partner’s shoulder or wraps around his waist. The male partner insert his member into her vagina, adjusting his height. This is a variant of Missionary posture.
Variants of Women on Top
The popular and pro orgasm posture “women on top” are having some variants. These variants may be useful for either vaginal or anal penetration. The following are the variations:
(a) Sitting on surface or Bed : Here the male partner sits on the surface, legs outstretched. The female partner sits on top(on the lap) taking the penis into her vagina and wraps her legs around her partner. This is called ‘pounding on the spot’ in the perfumed garden. Since both the partner is facing each other closely and the upper parts of the body are easily accessible to both the partners thus foreplay or caressing is possible at any point of time.
Sometimes it may happen like this : the female partner wraps her legs around her partner’s waist and holding him by hands around his neck, keeping her head on her partner’s shoulder. These results upper parts of both the bodies held together tightly which may prevent her from pounding the clit but being lower portion of her body, not tightly held and being under her control, she can still stimulate it by moving her waist and hips and enjoy the clitoral stimulations. Stimulation may not be vigorous but slow. The pace of her movement of her clitoris would depend as per the demand of her body (Clitoris) and she can control the same. If the posture prevents her movements there are every possibility to push the male partner and make him flat on the bed or floor and she rides the way “women on top” posture and reaches to the Golden moment of Orgasm.
(b) The male partner sits on a chair. The female partner straddles her partner and sits, facing each other, feet on the floor. This is sometimes known as the lap dance.
( c) The male partner stands, holding the female partner off the ground. The female partner wraps her legs around the male partner’s waist and the female partners’ arms around his neck while male partner holds her thighs or buttocks while penetrating the vagina from the bottom. The female partner takes active part in this by moving her vagina up and down with the support of her legs.
(d) Same as the above posture, but the female partner’s back is pressed against a wall as a frictional support. The male partner takes active part while penetrating the vagina from the bottom. This is called the supported congress in the Kama Sutra.
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21 July 2007 at 7:43 pm (Climax, Clitoris, Female body, Intercourse, Kamasutra, Love, Love making, Orgasm, Sex, Sexual pleasure, Sexual posture, posture)
It is necessary to select a suitable posture which help female partner achieve orgasm by means of clitoris and penis shaft contact. Missionary position (men on top) is best for having sex as it has some advantages for both but orgasm point of view it is not suitable position because in this position her clitoris does not get rubbed or stimulated with the penis or genital areas. It is advised to try reverse position (woman on top) which is the best posture for female partner to achieve climax faster. Being on top she will have full control of her clit and her movements of the vagina. She can rub her clit on the penis as she likes. Her movements would be forward and backward to get her clit stimulated maximum. Thus she will reach to climax faster like masturbation. This is the only posture where the clitoris comes into direct contact with the penis shaft. In this posture the females can enjoy sex to a greater height. Only thing male partner has to delay his climax till her orgasm. Generally when the female partner is active, the male partner turns on to the max and as a result reaches to climax early. This can be delayed to some extend by diverting his mind from the act or concentrating his mind elsewhere (say counting reverse from 100 to 1). When you feel that she is approaching to her orgasm, you then start stroking upward for ejaculation so that both can reach to climax simultaneously.
After orgasm she may be exhausted and she may rest her body on your chest, without decoupling the penis. Since you were in passive mode, allow her to take rest on you for a while and you should show your love to her by caressing, kissing, and arranging her hairs etc.
So long you were in passive mode and helped her achieve orgasm, you may still like to ride her for another round of vaginal intercourse with an active and dominant role by you. If that is the case, you should caress and love her for sometime. By this caressing, love and foreplay she will be aroused slowly. Generally female partners, at this juncture won’t disappoint her partner (who has helped her achieve orgasm), and try to reciprocate by offering another round of sex for his pleasure. It is said that the women can go to any extent for an orgasm. The man who satisfies her, will be satisfied by her too. This way both of you will be enjoying sex and be satisfied with ultimate pleasure, which will be remembered in the next morning by both of you.
Kamasutra says about this posture ( women on top) : “Though a woman is reserved, and keeps her feelings concealed; yet when she gets on the top of a man, she then shows all her love and desire. A man should gather from the actions of the woman of what disposition she is, and in what way she likes to be enjoyed.”
Advantages :
Unlike in the missionary position, in this position the female partner has the active role while the male partner has the passive role.
As before, the key is that the woman has control of the thrusting and can position herself to rub her clitoris against the shaft of the penis more effectively.
Penetration is quite deep, and the female partner can control the orgasm intensity and depth of penetration. Genital stimulation may not be very intense but can be provided periodical thrust against the female partner’s genitals.
Both partners can see one another, particularly the male lying on his back, can view and caress the female partner’s breasts while they are in a more natural position. The female partner, by leaning over her partner, too can embrace, caress, kiss.
A male partner may be able to delay orgasm longer in this position.
The position is far less tiring for the both the partners as they do not have to support others weight while in action.
The female partner can control the depth, intensity, and angle of penetration, and enjoy the dominant feeling of being in control.
The male partner can enjoy receiving pleasure while relaxing while watching her facial impressions of pleasures.
The male partner can caress the female partner’s buttocks and stimulate the anus.
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7 July 2007 at 5:08 pm (Climax, Clitoris, Female body, Foreplay, Intercourse, Kamasutra, Orgasm, Sex, Sexual pleasure, Sexual posture, posture)
Missionary Posture : While talking about sexual postures,first of all comes to our mind the missionary posture. For most of the people sex is synonymous with the missionary position that is man on top and genital-to-genital intercourse. This posture is so common that we often go for this posture. Though it is not pro-orgasm posture, but it is most popular because it has some advantages over its only one disadvantage that is not pro-orgasm. Let us see what are the advantages, couples enjoy from this posture.
(a) In this posture the female partner’s legs should be in the air with the knees drawn towards her chest, while lying on her back. Once she raised her legs, her vagina is completely exposed. The male partner positions himself between her legs. The penis is penetrated into the vagina keeping the male partner’s body straight over her, between the legs. The male partner’s legs may be straight or one or both legs in bend position.
(b) In a little variation from the above, the posture may be little modified, which is popular amongst couples. In order to achieve optimal alignment, a pillow under her hips can be placed to raise the vagina a little so that the vagina and the penis comes to same axis and makes the entry easier. In this position the vagina is completely exposed once she raised her legs on the air and the knees drawn towards her chest, while lying on her back. The male partner positions between her legs. Use of pillow is optional and may not be required for all.
Male partner sits in front of the vagina placing his knees (folded legs) beside her hips. The male partner leans his upper body towards her chest, between her lifted legs. Now the alignment being so exact, that without looking at the organs or without any guidance, the throbbing penis waits just in front of the opening of the vagina for penetration. So by a little push the penis will enter in the vagina without any problem. In this position the vaginal canal and the shaft of the penis will be in the same axis and because of this the movement of the penis will be horizontal. In this position you can move your lower part freely which makes the strokes harder and harder. While strokes are on, and she wrapped your waist by her legs and you have lifted (or you have leaned little more to her chest) her to your chest by placing your hands at her back, the both the bodies with this posture acts like a machine.
Technically, this posture is hundred percent perfect for vaginal intercourse, and if you look at it while intercourse, you may feel that our male female bodies have been designed keeping this posture in mind, it is so perfect and flawless, in all respect.
As told earlier that many traditional sexual positions, including the missionary position, do not make it very easy for a woman to achieve orgasm. In this position, the vaginal canal and the penis are in horizontal position and penis moves in horizontal way (forward and back). This posture allows penis to penetrate into deep of her vagina. Therefore this position does a good job of stimulating the penis. However, when she is lying on her back and engaged in sex in missionary position, her clitoris is several centimeters above the vaginal opening. Thus the penis shaft which moves horizontally, may not come in contact with the clitoris at all. Clitoral stimulation by means of rubbing with the penis shaft while thrusting the penis into the vagina is an essential factor for her Orgasm. But the position of the clitoris on her body is such that the stimulation by penis is not easy unless we are careful about it or keep in mind while stroking. This is how some alternative, pro orgasm posture or modified methods are necessary for her pleasure.
Advantages :
(a) This posture allows penis to penetrate fully into deep of the vagina.
(b) It is a male’s posture, it does a good job of stimulating the penis.
(c) Both the partners can see each other and communicate.
(d) Male partner can caress her by kissing and may continue foreplay or foreplay like behavior during sexual intercourse.
(e) She can apply upward thrust by moving the heap upward with the rhythm of the male partner’s stroke to make harder and harder thrusts so that the clitoris may be pressed to some extend and may lead to ultimate pleasure to her.
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29 June 2007 at 8:43 pm (Climax, Clitoris, Female body, Foreplay, Human Body, Intercourse, Kamasutra, Love, Love making, Nature, Orgasm, Sex, Sexual pleasure, posture)
There are some sensitive points on our body, which are stimulated directly or indirectly while foreplay for arousing partners before engaging into sexual intercourse. Touching, pressing, messaging or stimulation of these parts induces sexual response. Some of the important erogenous zones are discussed here but once you are experienced you will discover the right ones, most arousing for your partner.
In sex, we can’t say what would turn us on, sometimes simple acts, such as straightening her clothing or hair, whispering in her/his ear can be foreplay and arousing. Similarly holding hands, touching the face, any type of caressing, kissing or messaging the erogenous parts are also foreplay.
Besides above, following are the example of different type of Foreplay usually takes place, before engaging into sexual intercourse.
(a) Deep tongue kissing.
(b) Touching and massaging erogenous zones over clothing.
(c) Touching and massaging erogenous zones under clothing.
(d) Direct stimulation of naked erogenous zones.
(e) Genital Teasing for a brief time.
(f) Undressing oneself or partner.
Breasts & Nipples
Breasts and Nipples are most sensitive parts for arousing. Touching, pressing, kissing and caressing the breast are very common. The nipples too are most sensitive parts of the females for arousing. Once she is aroused, the nipples get harder. Sometimes foreplay of sucking of the nipples and simultaneous pressing of the other breast, are continued till initial phase of intercourse.
Neck
The neck and clavicle area of the female is a very sensitive region. Licking, kissing, and caressing here are very arousing to many people. Additionally the back of the neck is very sensitive to arousal by lightly caressing. That’s why when a standing female is held from her back and light caressing and kissing at the back of her neck, she enjoys and gets aroused.
Female genitalia
Direct stimulation of naked erogenous zones is almost always considered foreplay. In women, this includes stimulation of the clitoris and Vulva. When the vulva is touched or messages, females respond quickly. This can be done over the cloth or under the cloth directly or naked. It should be started with simply touching over the cloth and then progress slowly. Once she is responded and aroused, her body will let you know.
The clitoris located above the urethra and vaginal canal, is not always noticeable. Clitoris too will be stimulated lightly while messaging the Vulva area.
For both sexes, stimulation of nipple and anus are also considered foreplay. Stimulation can be achieved by mouth, hands, or common household objects like feathers or ice cubes.
Male genitalia
In men, it includes stimulation of the penis and scrotum. The penis is the most erogenous zone in the male body. The joint of all sensitive nerves lies underneath the penis head which highly sensitive and may elicit strong sensations from the slightest touch or movement. The ridged band is also a fairly sensitive part of the penis as well.
The skin of the scrotum is very sensitive to light touching and stroking, causing a pleasurable sensation. This pleasurable sensation is generally experienced when female partner lie on her stomach, over a pillow, lifting the vagina, and male rides her from her back. While stroking in this posture, the scrotum touches her soft buttocks causing pleasurable sensation in scrotum, which is an extra pleasure for the male partner.
Foreplay induces a strong mutual desire for penetration to the female partner. Technically, foreplay ends with the beginning of penetration. But practically it may continue while intercourse too. Couple may engage in foreplay-like behavior during intercourse too.
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18 June 2007 at 4:17 pm (Climax, Clitoris, Foreplay, Intercourse, Kamasutra, Life, Love, Love making, Orgasm, Sex, Sexual pleasure)
When we compare the female behaviors while sex, we find they are opposite of males in many ways. Unlike males, females get aroused slowly. Similarly they take longer time to climax. Female partner may not respond instantly and the male partner need to arouse her by foreplay before engaging into vaginal intercourse. Most women want long and sensual foreplay for making the whole lovemaking session more enjoyable. Kamasutra says – “….he should have recourse to various means to excite her passion. At the commencement he should rub her yoni (vagina) with his hand or fingers, and not begin to have intercourse with her until she becomes excited, or experiences pleasure. This is one way of exciting a woman.”
Sometimes, the male partner does not take care of foreplay which is necessary for a successful and pleasant session. Even if female partner not heated properly, for male partner don’t make any difference to achieve his sexual pleasure. Male partner’s sex organ is such that he gets the pleasure easily with a little stimulation but female partner does not get what she wants if she is not fully aroused.
Therefore, male partner should engage himself for a prolonged foreplay and wait till the partner is fully exited and heated before main game started. When she is fully aroused, heated she will show her increased willingness for union of two sex organs by means of kissing and biting the lips. While foreplay her vagina will be oozing lubricating juices and will be wet, wide and well lubricated for making the penetration highly smooth and pleasurable. Sexual intercourse after prolonged foreplay will be more delicious, more pleasurable for both the partners and this type of intercourse will lead her to orgasm faster if a little attention is given by the male partner to rub or hit her clitoris while stroking his penis into her vagina. As per “Kamasutra”- “The signs of the enjoyment and satisfaction of the woman are as follows: her body relaxes, she closes her eyes, she puts aside all bashfulness, and shows increased willingness to unite the two organs as closely together as possible.
In sixteenth century, Sheikh Nefzaoui, an Arabian writer wrote ‘Perfumed Garden’. In his work he has mentioned about the foreplay and how to understand that she is excited and to start genital to genital coition. He says -“ if you would have pleasant coition, which ought to give an equal share of happiness to the two combatants and be satisfactory to both, you must first of all toy with the woman, excite her with kisses, by nibbling and sucking her lips, by caressing her neck and cheeks. Turn her over in the bed, now on her back, now on her stomach, till you see by her eyes that the time for pleasure is near.”
“Then when you observe the lips of a woman to tremble and get red, and her eyes to become languishing, and her sighs to become quicker, know that she is hot for coition; then get between her thighs, so that your member can enter into her vagina. If you allow my advice, you will enjoy a pleasant embrace, which will give you the greatest satisfaction, and leave with you a delicious remembrance. “
At last but not the least, my advice – my dear do not hurry up on bed too, be patience, proceed slowly, it yields. Utilize the opportunities successfully for maximum benefits of you both. Lovemaking is an God gifted art, take time and do it properly and enjoy and let her enjoy the game. We are most intelligent species on this planet, then why to do it like animals? Having good pleasurable sex (for both) is good for health as it is one kind of food for soul. Love and be loved.
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